Psykobloggen

I am because you are…

In a real sense, all life is interrelated. All [people] are caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied in a single garment of destiny. Whatever affects one directly affects all indirectly.  I can never be what I ought to be until you are what you ought to be, and you can never be what you ought[…]

Hvordan kan jaget etter lykke påvirke oss negativt?

Som individer så går vi som oftest ut i fra at lykke er hva vi vil og ønsker til det ytterste uansett pris, at Lykken er selve målet for våre liv. Men ifølge Jacques Lacan, verdenskjent fransk psykoanalytiker, så er lykken intet annet en ett ‘svik mot våre begjær’ (Žižek, 2002). Svik mot våre begjær[…]

Hedonic adaptation? Being happi-er is not to get used to being happy!

Do we really want or desire happiness? Do we really want or desire happiness? At first glance, this question seems contra-intuitive and meaningless to ask as we assume that happiness is what we want and desire the uttermost. According to Lacan, our fantasies have to be unrealistic. Because the moment, the second that you get[…]

To love or not to love, that is the question…

We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection. Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that[…]

Woe to him who doesn’t know how to wear his mask, be he king or pope!

Remember who you are Remember who you are? One of our greatest fears is not to be accepted by others for who we are. Even greater is the fear to accept ourselves for ‘all that, that we truly are, both our worst and best parts equally’. How much truth can (or should) we carry on[…]

The great, pure and magnificent things that say no

I was thinking of all the great, pure and magnificent things that say no. Why should they say yes and tolerate our silly caresses? We trample, destroy and leave those who say yes, and after leaving them, we find that they made us feel wicked. Karen Blixen We trample, destroy and leave those who say[…]

Our Gloomy Sundays

Friedrich Nietzsche once said: “Everyone who has ever built anywhere a ‘new heaven’ first found the power thereto in his own hell.» Everyone who has ever built anywhere a ‘new heaven’ first found the power thereto in his own hell. Friedrich Nietzsche At life’s crossroads we ask ourselves who we have become? At life’s crossroads[…]

Our small daily solitudes…

Is it not true that many of us recognize this feeling of being life’s invisible passenger, looking at the existence flowing ‘outside’ instead of within? We feel that people around us are strangers, with undecipherable languages and anonymous behaviors. They brush by us as if we were invisible, dusty old walls, distant ruins. We are[…]